I got married about a month ago, and it was awesome! A lot of effort went into making sure that our wedding day had some important considerations- food for hungry guests, outfits for the wedding party, and bubbles for our exit. But what I undoubtedly put the most effort in to- I mean, I spent at least 5 hours every week on this, and there were 6 months leading up the wedding- was the playlist.
My husband was in charge of several things about the wedding- catering, venue, etc. But I was in charge of music, and I got pretty obsessed. It can be difficult to find just the right music for your wedding (of course, Jon and I both love sad songs, so that was a hard place to start from when you want your wedding to be happy).
Of course you can always go with the tried-and-true “it’s your day, you should do whatever you want.” But you probably have a family member who would disown you over the Volbeat song you want to play. Or maybe you have guests who are sensitive to loud music, or you simply don’t have the time to play everything you really want. Maybe you’ve hired a DJ who doesn’t have access to that one song that’s crucial to you.
My advice is to play as much as what you want, and then compromise on a few things to save you stress. For example: at our reception, I really wanted to play “Chateau Lobby #4 (In C For Two Virgins)” because it’s one of my favorite love songs. However, it also mentions murder, explicit sexual overtones, and a “Satanic Christmas Eve.” Ultimately, it probably didn’t send the exact theme that I wanted our wedding to reflect. Also my family would have been horrified- and those are the kind of reactions you don’t want to bother with on your wedding day.
But I didn’t just mark every potentially offensive song off of my wedding playlist, either. I love the song “You’re My Best Friend” by Queen, and, after consulting Jon about what song should play as we exit the ceremony, I felt that it was our best choice. What could be wrong with it? Well, my parents don’t like Queen; I wasn’t allowed to listen to them when I was growing up. But, since this song really did seem like the best choice, I figured they could stand it. And they did!
With that being said, if you’re getting married soon or just looking for some ideas, here are some songs that just might work for you:
- “At Last” by Etta James
- “First Time Ever I Saw Your Face” by Roberta Flack
- “Something” by The Beatles
- “Can’t Help Falling In Love” by Elvis Presley
- “God Only Knows” by The Beach Boys
- “Without You” by Eddie Vedder
- “Turning Page” by Sleeping At Last
- “Coming Home” by Leon Bridges
- “Young And Beautiful” by Lana Del Rey
- “Pacific” by Sleeping At Last
- “Bookends Theme” by Simon & Garfunkel
- “Nocturne Op. 9, No. 2” by Chopin
- “Companion Piece- Instrumental” by Sea of Content
- “We Put A Pearl In The Ground” by St. Vincent
At the end of the day, you want to play something that best represents you and your partner. Have fun!